You're not too much. You’re exhausted from trying to feel secure in relationships that keep hurting you.
If someone keeps pulling away, sending mixed signals, or leaving you questioning your worth, there’s usually a deeper relationship pattern underneath it.
I help people understand what’s really happening — so they can stop overthinking, regain clarity, and finally feel more emotionally secure in love.
Together, we work through the attachment patterns, emotional triggers, and relationship dynamics that keep you stuck in anxiety, confusion, and painful cycles.
"Your mental well-being influences every relationship and every decision you make — caring for it is not optional if you want a life that feels authentic, fulfilling, and peaceful." Bev Mitelman, M.A. - excerpt from interview in Authority Magazine. Read full article here.
If This Is You...
- You overthink texts, tone, and distance — and it’s exhausting.
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Relationships trigger anxiety or emotional spirals.
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You keep attracting emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners, even when you know better.
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You’re tired of over-functioning, over-giving, and carrying the emotional weight in relationships.
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You’re successful and self-aware — yet relationships still feel hard.
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You’re tired of “talking about it” without real change.
You’re not broken. Your attachment system learned how to survive at a young age — and now it’s asking for something different.
You’re in Safe & Skilled Hands
Hi, I’m Bev - Founder of Securely Loved.
I’m a Certified Relationship & Attachment Trauma Practitioner, and Certified Menopause Specialist. I work with people who feel:
- Emotionally dysregulated
- Stuck in repeating relationship patterns
- Disconnected from themselves
My approach blends attachment theory, trauma-informed care, nervous system regulation and midlife & hormonal awareness (where appropriate). I provide emotional attunement, safety, and skilled guidance.
What Our Clients Say
"I have made more progress within a few sessions, than I have ever in years of therapy!
I have worked with close to 20 therapists over the years and have found little to no progress. I am so beyond grateful to have found Securely Loved! If you aren't sure if this type of therapy is right for you, I highly recommend giving it a try!"
Dr. Kristie Vucic, ND
What Clients Often Worry About
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Attachment therapy helps you understand how early experiences shape your current relationships and to identify patterns that cause disconnection or emotional stress. The goal is to help you build healthier, more secure relationships—with others and yourself.
Do You Know Your Own Attachment Style?
You often feel comfortable and at ease in relationships. You’re also good at communicating your needs and feelings, and feel open to vulnerability in your relationships. However, sometimes you can experience difficulty when relating to those who aren’t as secure in relationships.
Relationships can often make you feel anxious, unsafe or insecure because you likely have a subconscious fear of abandonment. As a result, you seek more closeness in your relationships, and can feel afraid if you sense a loved one is pulling away.
Intense emotions can feel overwhelming and can cause you to pull away from others. You may find yourself withdrawing from arguments or triggering situations. This need for independence can cause challenges in your relationships and inner conflict for you, because deep down, you want to connect with others.
Relationships can feel chaotic, confusing and overwhelming because you swing between being avoidant and anxious. Depending on the relationship, you can shift between being "hot and cold," often feeling confused about your feelings.
Your attachment style has a profound impact on your emotional patterns, needs and ability to communicate effectively in relationships. Awareness is the first step.